Is it legal for a man to procure the services of a dominatrix? In the kind of session I have in mind, there's no nudity or sexual activity or contact involved. There's not even any whipping or flogging or caning or hardcore BDSM stuff. I just want to see what it would be like to be bound and gagged. That's it. So is it against the law to pay a woman to tie me up?
For many years, I thought I preferred hetero-romantic asexual relationships. Exposure to select reading material-thanks to my gender-studies classes-has me convinced I'm an asexual t-type (i.e., "top," but I prefer not to use such connotative terms) female who is attracted to slight and feminine men.
Please do a public-service announcement about the Ashley Madison hack, and request that NO ONE look up information on ANYONE other than their own spouse. I'm a former AM user. I've been married to my wife for 20 years. We met when we were both 20 years old. Seven years ago, I made a selfish decision to have an affair, and five years ago, my wife found out. She hated me for a while, but we worked things out.
I'm a woman in a straight relationship. I woke up this morning, and my BF wasn't in bed with me. He felt ill in the middle of the night and went to sleep in the spare room—where he found a condom in its wrapper behind the nightstand.
I've been reading your column for a while, and you always advise kinky people to go seek the same within the kink community. But in my experience, the kink community is very "sex right away, get to know you later"-oriented.
Does a person who acts loving only when high on weed really love you? My live-in boyfriend of three years acts sweet, loving, and caring when he's high, but when the weed runs out, he's mean, angry, hurtful, and horrible to be around.
I have always wanted to have a girls-only sex party, but I'm not sure how I feel about actually organizing one. What's the etiquette if I do organize one myself? Do I need to provide the dildos for people's harnesses? Or just the condoms and lube? And how do I find people who want to attend? Do I just tweet out an invite? Is there a better way that makes me seem less sketchy?