The first thing we wanted to do was take the focus off of the food. We wanted to make the holidays a celebration of family and friends, not the feast. The focus of Thanksgiving, instead of being the giant turkey, would be getting to see all of our nieces, nephews and cousins. It would be about the traditions we love to share together, like sitting and watching the football games, or picking names for the Christmas gift exchange. We would be thinking about what we are all gathering for — family time and celebration — not food.