I have watched through the years at the families around me. And yes, sadly, at times, I watched female friends who held their daughters to impossible standards of perfection and waited hand-and-foot on their sons, requiring no standards of behavior. I have watched wives say nothing, or titter — embarrassed — when their husbands made sexually inappropriate remarks at parties or out in public.
And, no, I have never allowed myself to be a victim. Looking back, there had even been a time when I went out and got another job rather than continue to work in an uncomfortable environment. And yes, in tough economic times it is hard to give up a good job. Yes, there are times when not all women can just stand up to a harasser. Yes, there are times when going to HR doesn't work.
But, at all times, I have always respected myself enough to find a solution.
For many years, information and help has been available across this nation. It requires women who have the will, not just the ability, to stand up for a safe environment — whether on the street, at the office or at home.