Who among us doesn't know someone who identifies as an LGBTQ person? They are our neighbors, colleagues, siblings, parents, teachers, pastors and friends. When we think about this debate over what is right for the lives of others, suddenly we see human faces — such as the faces of the gay couple up the street and their beautiful children. Suddenly we realize we don't want to treat our neighbors like second-class members of our church. Deliberators in Detroit will see these faces in the assembly around them. They will be reminded that it's not just about the interpretation of certain passages in the Bible. It's also about the harm done to families when couples are not allowed to marry.