With roughly 13,500 children, mostly girls, reported missing every year, and 1,500 of them unaccounted for, we don't need that kind of noise when the priority should be finding our children. We as a society need to re-think the ways in which we represent our children. We must be less cavalier in the ways we formulate our messages about them. Shame and blame have no place in the search for a child. We need to move beyond our outdated and outlandish defaults, especially with regard to our perceptions and representations of girls and women. Equality has to do as much with real and news reel representations of females as it does with equal pay for equal work, and equal access to education and career choices. The Baltimore County girl was found, but each year just over a thousand children are not, according to Maryland State Police statistics. These children, most of them girls, are somebody's daughter, sister and/or friend. Our goals should be to protect them, and to search for and find them when they are lost, not to judge them. There is no room for shaming and blaming. What this girl deserved was our compassion and concern. When a child goes missing, let the focus be on finding that child. Everything else is noise.