As if we weren't confused enough, a new book responds to the tough-love best seller He's Just Not That Into You by telling women, Be Honest - You're Not That Into Him Either.
So after authors Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo drilled into our brains that if he doesn't call, he's just not that into you, sexologist Ian Kerner writes in his forthcoming book that there are many explanations for a man's not calling. "Women get nervous, but men do too," he writes. "That time we never called you - that might actually have been because we were confused."
In He's Just Not That Into You, the authors insinuate that if men can run the world, then they can also manage to make the first call. "Well, we're doing a fine job running things so far this millennium, aren't we?" Kerner says. "And who are these men? ... Most men I talk to are too preoccupied trying to understand the differences between Viagra, Levitra and Cialis to run the world."
Be Honest - You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve, which will be in stores in February, examines the physiological differences between the genders and the sociological pressures women feel to be married and create families by a certain age.
Kerner sees many patients who raced into marriage for the wrong reasons and are miserable.
"Mathematically, there are enough men to go around. Are they all for you? No. But you can't get away with the excuse that there are too few good men. You need to look in different places. ... Instead of hitting the bar, raise it."
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