With more than 70 million grandparents in the United States and 75,000 Americans between the ages of 45 and 69 joining the new grandparents club each month, publishers have come up with a new generation of grandparent primers. Among them:
* "Nanas & Papas: A Boomer's Guide to Grandparenting," by Allen and Kathy Zullo, ($10.95, Andrew McMeel)
* "Grandparenting ABC's: A Beginners' Handbook," Eleanor Berman, ($13, Perigee, 1998)
* "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Grandparenting," by Walter Hartt ($16.95, MacMillan)
* "Grandparenthood," by Dr. Ruth Westheimer, ($22, Routledge)
Tips for positive grandparenting include:
* Stay open to new trends in child-rearing. The way children are raised today is different from when you were parents.
* If you live far away, use letters, e-mail, videos and calls to keep in touch with grandchildren.
* The more hectic life becomes, the more simple things matter. Waving goodbye at the same window each time grandchildren visit, calling every Sunday evening or planning visits are rituals that make memories.