Q.In response to a recent letter about a young girl who was constantly talking out of turn at school: Would it help to suggest that the child write down what she feels compelled to spontaneously verbalize? The writing activity may not only prevent the negative "blurting out" behavior but may serve as reassurance that she can share her thoughts and feelings at a more appropriate time.

A. What a great idea! Not only would it be a way for others to respect her thoughts and her spontaneity, but it would give her a chance to develop some control over her impulsiveness.

I suspect that impulsive behavior is what bothers those around her. Once she can control it, her parents and teachers can let her know how they admire her for her ability to contain herself. Others will admire her and like her better.

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Pub Date: 9/06/98