WHETHER MARRIED 50 hours or 50 years, some couples will experience a problem so big that it can't be solved with the usual solutions: a tearful apology and a bouquet.
Still, a lot of us feel we're perfectly capable of solving our marital difficulties without anyone else's help.
With this in mind, marriage and spiritual counselors Warren and Mary Ebinger sat down to write their latest book, "Do-It-Yourself Marriage Enrichment."
After years of counseling by example, the couple have changed their modus operandi a bit.
Warren retired last year as pastor of Severna Park United Methodist Church, but the couple have continued their busy lives from their new home in Annapolis.
Under the auspices of their new company, the Adventure of Marriage -- Creative Retreats and Counseling for Couples, the Ebingers lead retreats, conduct a counseling service and write inspirational articles and program materials.
Their latest endeavor is meant to be a personal workshop to be used "on your own time, on your own terms and on your own turf."
To strengthen what they call the "circle of love," the Ebingers' book is written in the voice of a counselor who guides partners to better relationships.
Filled with anecdotes from couples readers will easily identify with, the book provides devotions for each session and guidelines to foster a loving attitude.
A dialogue to inspire warm recollections of your wedding day is part of session one: What was the weather like? Who was there? What were the flowers like?
Readers are advised to look through their wedding albums or watch their wedding videos in a romantic, candlelight setting. Over coffee and cake, the couple set a date for session two.
Published by Abingdon Press, the book is available at Barnes & Noble and Christian bookstores.
The Severna Park Newcomers Club's final luncheon meeting of the year will be at Hemingway's Restaurant at 11: 30 a.m. May 20.
Hemingway's is at the foot of the Chesapeake Bay Bridge at Bay Bridge Marina on the Eastern Shore, about 20 minutes from Severna Park. It's also just five minutes from the outlets.
Newcomers is open to all women in the area.
Officers and committee chairs for 1998-1999 who will be installed at the luncheon are Judy Silberlicht, president; Bonnie Brown, first vice president; Trish Behrens and Nancy Kittinger, second vice presidents; Barbara Swissler, recording secretary; Susan Cox, treasurer; Candy Moore, corresponding secretary; Karen Strange and Carolyn Heim, luncheons; Sharon Gratrix and Janan Frey, socials; Bonnie Sysko, activities; Lorraine Appleton, publicity; and Eileen Del Prete, outreach.
The deadline for May luncheon reservations is May 15. For details, call 410-897-0906 or 410-647-6345.
Flower sale Saturday
If you love the flowers at Homestead Gardens but hate the drive to Davidsonville, find all the Homestead plants you want Saturday from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. at Broadneck High School's flower sale, which will be held at the school, on Green Holly Drive off College Parkway.
Pub Date: 5/07/98