Q: I was in a wonderful relationship with a man for two years, a man who treated me better than I've ever been treated. Except he never told me he loved me. We (I) finally spoke about this, and he said he could not commit to me. But he wanted to continue the way things were.

At the age of 40 I wanted more and knew I deserved more, and so unhappily I ended the relationship. I mourned for him for one year, with him calling me intermittently, having occasional dates. Silly me. After one year with no change in his thinking I avoided talking to him at all. A few months later, in the middle of his trying to see me again, I found out he was living with someone. My advice for anyone in a similar situation is to forget him and move on.

A: You did the right thing in ending this relationship, but then letting it drift into a state of limbo with occasional dates was a mistake. The only way to cut the ties that bind is to sever them completely.