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Supervisor kills incentive


This month many of you wrote letters about terrible bosses, teen-aged sitters (pro and con), divorce and retirement:

"Why don't you write more about bosses like ours? She has managed to kill every incentive for 'her girls,' as she calls us, to try to help her or even like her -- much less make her job easier," wrote an Orlando, Fla., reader.

"She is threatened by anyone who tries to get ahead and never recommends that we get a raise. We are her slaves. Making coffee is below her and never would she help clean up after a party! That is what 'her girls' are for."

From Omaha, Neb., two mothers wrote: "As parents of teen-agers, we found your suggestions regarding hiring a teen to stay with your child (who is too old for day care, but too young to stay home) a real insult.

"Our teen-agers' time is worth more than $60 a week! You are asking them to take on the responsibility of a mother while she's out earning money. At your suggested rate and assuming the mother is gone for at least nine hours, that ends up being $1.33 per hour.

"[This] perpetuates the attitude that child care is not an important job . . . and that it's available for a cheap price."

A Louisville, Ky., reader felt left out after a column about the loneliness that many women feel after a divorce. "I read with great interest your column on divorcees, but how about hearing from a man?" his letter began.

"I'm a working man, a parent, and -- because of my wife's insistence -- going through a divorce. The last thing I'll be looking for for quite some time will be romance. I believe my priority will be friendship and companionship, but I fear they will be hard to find."

A recent column about the difficult adjustment that many people face when they retire brought a flood of letters filled with good advice.

"I was distressed to read of the woman entering retirement who did not know what to do ," wrote a Garland, Texas, reader.

"I planned my retirement just like I planned my work. I computed my retirement income, and two years before retirement I began adjusting my living cost to that income. Next, I looked at those things I really enjoy doing . . . and proceeded to make contacts in those areas.

"Am I happy and fulfilled now that I'm retired? You bet I am! I have the freedom to do the things I really enjoy without the daily stress of work. Were there adjustments? Yes, but even those allowed me to really get to know myself."

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