You get what you ask for, or think about [commentary]

You get what you ask for, or think about.

I was first introduced to the concept of the Law of Attraction while in undergrad.


I had a good friend in college, an aspiring comedian, who used to talk with such passion and authority about how he gets what he wants out of life.

Naturally, I was intrigued. Considering myself a go-getter, I had to find out this secret or magic formula he was using. Who doesn't want to be successful in life and have all of their dreams and aspirations come true?

He told me he subscribes to the idea of the Law of Attraction. He said, essentially, if you want something in life you ask for it. You put out in the universe good vibes and thoughts about what you want to achieve, and poof, it happens.

I thought his idea was crazy. It did not make any sense to me. I was taught, like most of you, I'm sure, that you work hard and remain steadfast and that's the key to success in life.

I never mentioned the Law of Attraction to my friend again. Although I did not fully dismiss his claim. I decided to do some research of my own to find out exactly what he meant and to gain some more clarity on the topic.

In reality, I learned, the Law of Attraction, is less about thinking something into existing, but making up your mind that you are ready for it.

Lots of things sounds great in theory: like buying a puppy.

A lot of young adults I know, pre-spouse and children, buy puppies for companionship. In theory, a puppy is a great companion. I mean, it is man's best friend.


Puppies provide a great exercise buddy when all your friends are too lazy or busy to go with you for a run; you need exercise and so does your pup.

Puppies also have a great snuggle factor, they honestly miss you when you are gone (even if it's just long enough to take out the trash) and if you train them right they can fetch important things, like the remote control while you sit back and relax on the couch. (Sadly, I have yet to meet a puppy with opposable thumbs that can pop open a cork bottle and pour me a glass of Malbec, but I digress).

You can think a puppy is a good idea in theory, who wouldn't want those things I just described. But being open to the idea of buying a puppy or receiving one as a gift and thinking having one a good idea are two totally different things.

For the Law of Attraction to work, I have found that you have to be totally open to the idea: whatever it is that you want.

What you want might be an answer to your dead end job.

If you want a new job theoretically, but are not open to the options the universe sends your way about maybe starting your own small ice cream shop, you may never free yourself from your dead end job because you were not open to the idea.


This same concept can apply to everything in life. So, as you continue to jot down your monthly goals (I hope everyone is still writing down their monthly goals with me) learn to be open to alternative ideas and things that make you uncomfortable and work toward achieving success for yourself, whatever that might be.