According to my friend – this guy I highly respect – the biggest culprits in this pedophiliac poaching-styled recruiting game, with its "gentlemen's agreement" with 14 year olds, are the parents. Particularly, or specifically speaking, the parents' pride. More accurately, it's the parents' hubris, because parental pride is great. It's healthy. But, vicariously living through your kid's accomplishments to the point that that parental pride morphs or tips the scales toward a less healthy hubris is not.