As a pastor, similar patterns emerged when consoling people. A troubled person would come to me for solace and answers. When I would ask them, "What is the one thing for which I can pray to God for you?" They would have a hard time coming up with an exact problem. They really did not know what they wanted, but they knew what they did not want. There is a modern trend in thinking that states: You will get what you focus on. So if you focus on the misery you are experiencing, you will get more misery. Jesus explained it this way: "Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you" (Matthew 17:20 NIV). So don't focus on the negative … unless you want more negative.