Finally, before making the decision on whom to name as your decision-makers consider that question, do you want to rest the quality of your life, dignity and final life choices in the hands of two people who despise one another? Yes, I have had clients' appointees actually use the word hate to describe how they feel about one another. Would you really think that it's a wise idea to name your child to execute your wishes for health care and her ex-husband attorney to execute handling of the finances? Oh, and by the way, they do not speak. Yes, true story.