4. Be a nudge to your friends. Political correctness says that we ask one time, very meekly, Jane are you OK? Then we never ask again because it won't be polite to push, to intrude, to infringe on our friend's American right to be miserable privately. Don't be politically correct. Fail at political correctness — offer yourself frequently, be a tiny bit of a doctor, a psychologist, a spiritual brother or sister.