I’ve challenged myself to act on self-reflection to create ways to fill my spirit. When I realize I have the power to choose, I’ve noticed a decrease in anxiety connected to social expectations and a relieved joy to make the season truly peaceful. I’ve learned to ask myself, what do I want? What do I need? What will keep me balanced and conserve my energy? What aspects drain me? What fills me? And because like many other families, our family has lost loved ones close to the holidays, these times of celebration will feel different, but not necessarily joyless.