Dize: Considering 'we are all going to die,' stop delaying and take action

Once I was asked, “Which ceremony would you rather perform, a wedding or a funeral?” Immediately I replied that I would rather be of service at a funeral, more so, than a wedding. Weddings sometimes become a little chaotic, especially the wedding rehearsal. Invariably, the rehearsal cannot start on time because some are still arriving from work. Then there are those who have begun to celebrate with an alcoholic drink before wedding day. They usually come in late and disrupt the training session.

Funerals are different. They are more reverent. There is a certain conscious feeling of respect present for the deceased and the family who are suffering from their loss. Everyone seems to be more cooperative, helpful and grateful to all those involved.


I especially like the interment process. The funeral director makes sure the procession with the casket leading, moves toward the east. Ending with the deceased's head pointing east. This is because, the Bible states that east is the direction which Jesus will return at the end of this world. The gathering for refreshments after the funeral seems to be a loving time where people are glad to see those they haven't seen since the last family funeral.

Sometimes those that have become saddened by the loss of their mate feel an anger toward God. Seeking counseling would be a smart idea. Often friends want mourners to get over it quickly. Mourning is a natural and very much-needed process. This process takes time and should not be hurried along by well-meaning friends and family.

Often the beliefs of the deceased dominate the mood of the funeral. If the deceased believed there is an afterlife and that they will be in heaven with God and Jesus, there seem to be a happier tone than if they believed there is no afterlife.

After one of the funerals, as people were moseying to their cars, a family member interjected a funny story that lightened up the previously heavy mood.

He started by saying, “Three friends from his local church congregation were asked, ‘When you're in the casket, and friends and congregation members are mourning over you what would you like them to say?’”

Artie said, “I would like them to say I was a wonderful husband, a fine spiritual leader, and a great family man.”

Eugene commented, “I would like them to say I was a wonderful teacher and servant of God who made a huge difference in people’s lives.”

Albert said, “I'd like them to say, “Look he's moving!”

No joke, before our use of medical equipment, they used to bury people before they were dead. People would have a hole put into the coffin. They would tie a string from the deceased's finger that ran through the hole and ground, up to a bell on top of the grave. That is were the saying “saved by the bell” came from.

There is one thing certain, as Billy Graham, Evangelist said, “We are all going to die!” And, author Wayne Dyer topped that by saying we all have one big problem, we think we are going to live forever. So I guess we have to step-up our action. We all have many things we want to do and accomplish … but taking the two sentences into consideration we have to take some immediate action and not delay.

One dear woman in my congregation wanted to take a driving trip but, she and her husband put it off until next year. I'm still sad that she didn't take the bull by the horns, pack the suitcases, put them in the car and put the pedal to the metal. In another congregation, a man told the story about entering a posh restaurant with no reservation and was told there would be a 45-minute wait, to which he replied, “Young man, we're 90 years old. We may not have 45 minutes.”

They were seated immediately.