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Collection: Tanika Davis' columns

  • That moment when you think you want more kids — and get a reality check instead

    That moment when you think you want more kids — and get a reality check instead

    I was talking with a woman last week who had just taken inventory of my rowdy trio of children and, inexplicably, asked me if I wanted any more. “Children?” I choked. “Dear God, no!” I felt woozy at the thought. She went on to tell me that her daughter also has three young children and does want...

  • Judge not, lest the parenting lessons keep coming

    Judge not, lest the parenting lessons keep coming

    Recently, my daughter had a school performance and a cookies-and-juice celebration in her classroom. In between the two events, I wandered over to the school’s two massive lost-and-found bins to see if I could locate a fleece ear warmer she’d lost two weeks after I bought it. I didn’t find the...

  • Realizing that childhood is fleeting, for better or worse

    Realizing that childhood is fleeting, for better or worse

    At a luncheon last winter, I sat next to a woman whose son, a high school junior, was about to go to Japan for four months. It was a special honor to be chosen for the program, and she was beaming with pride. She was overwhelmed a bit by the preparation for such a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity,...

  • How this busy parent will find balance in 2019

    How this busy parent will find balance in 2019

    New years mean new opportunities to know better, do better, be better – and who isn’t in need of bettering? (Aside from Jason Momoa.) I, for one, have so many things to improve, it’s hard to know where to begin. Let’s start with the obvious, the No. 1 resolution on most folks’ lists: health. In...

  • Don't blame parenting for the shooting of a 5-year-old in West Baltimore

    Don't blame parenting for the shooting of a 5-year-old in West Baltimore

    A 5-year-old girl was shot in the city on Monday. Carrying a doll in her small hands, she was walking to the corner store for juice when a bullet, meant for someone else, struck her. There are so many things to be outraged about in those two sentences. Personally, I get stuck at “a 5-year-old girl...

  • What's the perfect age to become a parent? No one seems to know.

    What's the perfect age to become a parent? No one seems to know.

    My little (42-year-old) cousin had his first child at age 20 and his second at 21. Next year, he and his wife are planning a trip of a lifetime together, trekking through Nepal and Bhutan. For a month. I had my boys at 36 and my daughter at 38. Next year, my husband and I are planning a week in...

  • Why I'll talk to my sons about sexual assault

    Why I'll talk to my sons about sexual assault

    Last week, Facebook reminded me that I wrote my inaugural parenting column for this newspaper four years ago this month. My first essay, with the headline “Ray Rice, my sons — and my daughter,” came pouring out of my mother-of-three heart after the shocking video of domestic abuse at the hands...

  • Motherhood changed me — and my brain

    Motherhood changed me — and my brain

    Motherhood changes you. This is a refrain pregnant women or new mothers will hear quite often. Sometimes the statement — usually coming from another, more experienced mother — is even bigger: Motherhood, they’ll say, changes everything. For me, the warnings came so often, they became like background...

  • If parents went to summer camp

    If parents went to summer camp

    Summer has arrived! After 14 months of winter and three days of spring, the temperatures have hit blistering, and the humidity is hanging over us like a mushroom cloud. It also means that I am spending an inordinate amount of time desperately searching for summer camps to fill all the weeks my...

  • Racism stacked the odds against my boys, so I asked readers for solutions. Here's what they told me.

    Racism stacked the odds against my boys, so I asked readers for solutions. Here's what they told me.

    Two months ago in this column, I referenced a startling study that painted a bleak picture of the outsize role race plays in the lives of black boys in this country. The sweeping study, which analyzed earnings and demographic data for nearly all Americans in their 30s, found that black boys who...

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