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Collection: Tanika Davis' columns

  • What's the perfect age to become a parent? No one seems to know.

    What's the perfect age to become a parent? No one seems to know.

    My little (42-year-old) cousin had his first child at age 20 and his second at 21. Next year, he and his wife are planning a trip of a lifetime together, trekking through Nepal and Bhutan. For a month. I had my boys at 36 and my daughter at 38. Next year, my husband and I are planning a week in...

  • Why I'll talk to my sons about sexual assault

    Why I'll talk to my sons about sexual assault

    Last week, Facebook reminded me that I wrote my inaugural parenting column for this newspaper four years ago this month. My first essay, with the headline “Ray Rice, my sons — and my daughter,” came pouring out of my mother-of-three heart after the shocking video of domestic abuse at the hands...

  • Motherhood changed me — and my brain

    Motherhood changed me — and my brain

    Motherhood changes you. This is a refrain pregnant women or new mothers will hear quite often. Sometimes the statement — usually coming from another, more experienced mother — is even bigger: Motherhood, they’ll say, changes everything. For me, the warnings came so often, they became like background...

  • If parents went to summer camp

    If parents went to summer camp

    Summer has arrived! After 14 months of winter and three days of spring, the temperatures have hit blistering, and the humidity is hanging over us like a mushroom cloud. It also means that I am spending an inordinate amount of time desperately searching for summer camps to fill all the weeks my...

  • Racism stacked the odds against my boys, so I asked readers for solutions. Here's what they told me.

    Racism stacked the odds against my boys, so I asked readers for solutions. Here's what they told me.

    Two months ago in this column, I referenced a startling study that painted a bleak picture of the outsize role race plays in the lives of black boys in this country. The sweeping study, which analyzed earnings and demographic data for nearly all Americans in their 30s, found that black boys who...

  • Grandparents' unconditional love felt for generations to come

    Grandparents' unconditional love felt for generations to come

    The doorbell rang and our three little ones went tearing down the stairs: “Nana!” they yelled. “Granddad!” In the foyer, my mother bent to squeeze them and sing-song their names; her bracelets jingled like trilling birds. The boys doled out their awkward head-butt hugs. (Side note: Why do little...

  • When the odds are stacked against your kids, what do you do?

    When the odds are stacked against your kids, what do you do?

    The other day I was talking to my boys about their futures. At 7-and-a-half, their interests are wild and varied. One day, they want to be president of the United States; the next, they want to make a living working at the treasure-filled dollar store. So I wasn’t at all surprised when my firstborn...

  • Shootings shatter the illusion that we can keep our children safe

    Shootings shatter the illusion that we can keep our children safe

    Each day, I send my children out the door and watch my husband pull off in the car to take them to school. I close the door, grateful for the quiet, and continue the ordinary to-dos of the morning – showering, makeup, a hasty response to an email that just can’t wait. I don’t usually think much...

  • Yes, the holiday aftermath sads are real

    Yes, the holiday aftermath sads are real

    The children have ripped through the presents, leaving cardboard shreds and plastic packaging all over the house. The war-torn area under the tree has become yet another spot in the house that needs daily tending. Sweet potato pies are now sweet potato crumbs, though the tins remain – sad, shiny...

  • The perils of the overscheduled parent

    The perils of the overscheduled parent

    I hustled into the Merritt Athletic Club with my three children in tow, pleased that we were on time(ish) for the second birthday party and fourth kid-related event of the day. My plan was to drop off the twin boys and take my kindergartner with me to pick up beverages and snacks for the guests...

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