Wedded: Pamela Woolford and Gregory Martin

Pamela and Gregory met on the dating website OkCupid in September 2013 and were engaged by November.
Pamela and Gregory met on the dating website OkCupid in September 2013 and were engaged by November. (Courtesy of Pamela Woolford and Gregory Martin, Handout photo)

Date: July 3

Her story: Pamela Woolford, 47, grew up in Columbia. She is a fiction writer and a former community correspondent for The Baltimore Sun. Her mother, the Rev. Sadie Woolford, lives in Columbia. Her father, Llewellyn Woolford Sr., died in 2012.


His story: Gregory Martin, 41, grew up in Middlesex, N.J. He is a music and philosophy teacher at Capital City Public Charter School in Washington, and is also a freelance composer and sound designer. His parents, Mary Ann and Thomas Martin, live in Middlesex.

Their story: Pamela and Gregory met on the dating website OkCupid in September 2013. Pamela was intrigued by Gregory's profile, which mentioned that he worked in theater. She wanted to know more but was hesitant at first.


"I'm a little bit old school," Pamela says. "I think the man should send the first real message."

She decided to compromise and sent Gregory a one-sentence message asking about his work. He responded right away, and the two exchanged emails over the next few days.

"We seemed to have a lot of things in common," Pamela says. "I was terribly excited because he just seemed so fascinating to me."

Less than a week later, they met for coffee at the Lakeside Cafe and Deli, which was located next to Lake Kittamaqundi in Columbia at the time. Afterward, they walked around the lake and went to dinner at Great Sage in Clarksville.


Gregory sent Pamela an email the next morning saying he'd love to see her again. Pamela was supposed to go with friends that day to Brookside Gardens in Montgomery County, but she asked if she could "steal" the plans and go with Gregory instead. The couple spent nine hours together and talked on the phone for eight hours the following evening.

They now live in Rockville.

The proposal: Pamela and Gregory attended a performance at the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts in November 2013. During the concert, Gregory took Pamela's hand and traced the phrase "Will you marry me?" onto her palm with his finger. He repeated the motions several times until Pamela eventually understood.

Pamela says the couple had previously talked about marriage and their future together, so while she was surprised by the moment, she says she wasn't taken off guard by the question.

Later that month, Gregory called Pamela into the living room of his home in Rockville and was waiting on one knee with a ring.

Venue: The couple were officially married Dec. 28, 2013, during a ceremony at Pamela's childhood home. Her mother presided.

The July 3 celebration and ceremony was at Historic Oakland, a 19th-century manor in Columbia. About 110 guests attended.

Gregory composed the processional music, which was performed by a groomsman, violinist Jeffry Newberger, and a guest pianist.

Pamela read a poem she wrote for Gregory titled "Copper," which was inspired by "A Moment of Happiness" by Rumi and "The Scissors Ceremony" by Michael Longley.

Flowers and decor: The couple chose a movie theme accented with copper and champagne-colored details because of their interest in film.

A film strip motif decorated the ceremony programs and menus.

Centerpieces featured vases of calla lilies accompanied by the table names — titles of classic films, including "Casablanca," "The Wizard of Oz" and "Jaws" — printed above famous lines from each film.

Her dress: The bride wore a custom strapless, A-line, hemp silk gown featuring a copper-colored front panel and embroidery by Seattle-based designer Wai-Ching.

Bridesmaids' dresses: The women wore champagne strapless, floor-length gowns by Dessy from The Bridal Boutique in Columbia.

Gregory's daughter, Tara Martin, 12, was a junior bridesmaid and wore a similar gown in moss green from The Bridal Boutique.

Men's attire: The men wore white dress shirts, champagne vests and ties, and dark denim pants.

Gregory's custom tie by Wai-Ching was copper-colored and featured embroidery to match Pamela's dress. He wore a pair of blue and tan vegan suede saddle shoes that Pamela gave him as a Christmas gift last year.

Gregory's son, Riley Martin, 10, was a junior groomsman.

Music: The couple's first dance was to "You've Made Me So Very Happy" by Blood, Sweat and Tears.

Food and dessert: Spice Xing in Rockville provided an assortment of vegan Indian food and appetizers, including vegetable fritters, chana masala, korma and chutney.

Dawson's Market in Rockville provided a vegan chocolate cake decorated with an old-fashioned film leader countdown featuring the number 2.

Favors: Guests received old-fashioned popcorn boxes filled with candies.

Special touches: Pamela and Gregory will go to Paris for their honeymoon in May 2015 for the European premiere of Gregory's choral composition, "Fiat Lux."


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