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Looking Out: Tom Daley is gay. Don't say, 'I told you so.'

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The 19-year-old British Olympic Bronze Medalist Tom Daley has revealed he's in a relationship with a man and has been since the spring.

Don't say, "I told you so," but British diver Tom Daley is gay.

Daley, 19, reportedly answered "I am" when asked if he is "a gay man now" on the British television show "Celebrity Juice" on Wednesday. (Here's the "TOTALLY gay" video.)

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The comment clashes with a December video he posted to YouTube, in which he said, "Of course I still fancy girls," while announcing he is dating a man (screenwriter Dustin Lance Black).

Here's how MTV UK responded to Wednesday's news on Twitter: "Look away ladies! @TomDaley1994 confirms he's gay and not bisexual."

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Another Twitter user, echoing the comments of others on social media, had this to say: "TOLD YA TOM DALEY IS 100% GAY NOW TOTALLY CALLED IT."

Back in December, I questioned whether the LGBT community was putting words in Daley's mouth when they claimed him as gay, disregarding what appeared to be a clear acknowledgment of bisexuality.

"Maybe he said he still fancies girls to help ease his fans into the idea of his being gay," I wrote, "but that is nothing more than an assumption about his personal identity."
Now that he has claimed a gay identity, that "easing in" theory may appear even more likely to be true. But again, don't say, "I told you so."
Just because Daley is "a gay man now" doesn't mean that all men who come out as bisexual are really gay, so my original point stands. His quick transition from being publicly bisexual to publicly gay should not make us any more skeptical the next time someone comes out as bisexual.

While temporarily claiming bisexuality may be seen as a convenient stepping stone for some gay men in today's world, where shaming of non-heteronormative people still runs rampant, it shouldn't fuel challenges to the identities of bisexual men and women.

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- Heads up, Johns Hopkins University students: The LGBTQ Life program at JHU is hiring an intern who will be responsible for office and promotional tasks, as well as "leading small scale programs, assisting with trainings, collaborating with cosponsors, and handling logistics." The position, for a currently enrolled JHU Homewood undergraduate, is for 8-10 hours a week, at $9.50 an hour, for fall 2014, starting in August.

- Mississippi legislators passed a bill known as the "Religious Freedom Restoration Act" that some fear will allow for discrimination against gays and lesbians based on religious grounds. A similar bill in Arizona sparked outcry before being vetoed by Gov. Jan Brewer there, but religious freedom laws are on the books in 18 states. If Mississippi Gov. Phil Bryant signs his state's bill, it would go into effect July 1.

- The producers of "TransMilitary," a documentary on transgender service members in the U.S. and U.K., released a new trailer on Monday to mark International Transgender Day of Visibility. The film is set to be released later this year.

- Model and activist Geena Rocero gave a TED Talk in Vancouver titled "Why I must come out." As is generally true with those who give TED Talks, she was entirely engaging and spoke compellingly, so I'll let her speak for herself. Check out her talk - and her "reveal" - for yourself here.

- Over in Uganda, the country's new "Anti-Homosexuality Act" -- which has reportedly sparked violence and rumors of torture in the country -- was recently celebrated by supporters with a parade that lasted five hours. Over at BuzzFeed, there's a full story under a picture of young children holding signs that say, "Museveni, Thank You for Saving the Future of Uganda."

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- On a final, lighter note, the folks over at Popnography have compiled a list of "12 Queer Comics You Should Know."

Do you have your own list of queer comics we should know and what do you think of Mr. Daley's dive into the LGBT waters?

 

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