Balancing emotional intimacy with sexual desire seems to be Patrick's Achilles' heel, and his inability to do so is made worse by a lack of self-assuredness. He's hardly alone there. All three of the men of "Looking" appear conflicted between who they are and who they think they want to be. At the show's start, Augustin (played brilliantly by Frankie J. Alvarez) is trading San Francisco for Oakland, where he moves in with his longtime boyfriend Frank (O-T Fagbenle). But while he's eager for the prospect of domestic bliss, monogamy is another story entirely. Dom (Murray Bartlett), meanwhile, realizes he's spent the better part of a decade postponing the dream of opening his own restaurant and being distracted by casual sex. But even as he bemoans the foolishness of "thinking that sex will make me feel better," that doesn't stop him from browsing Grindr for a one-night stands or cruising at the gym. As the show's title drives home, Dom, Patrick and Augustin are looking for something. But they never seem quite sure what it is they're looking for.