By By Sloane Brown and Special to The Baltimore Sun
Jul 25, 2012 | 1:49 PM
August 4, 2012
Cortlyn Weinkam, 21, grew up in Catonsville. She lives in Catonsville and works as a waitress at Ships Cafe while getting her degree in elementary education at Towson University. Her father is Louis Weinkam, a partner at Weinkam & Weinkam. Her mother, Dawn Weinkam, works at Weinkam & Weinkam, as well.
Joshua Krull, 23, grew up South Baltimore. He lives in Catonsville and is an apprentice at Old Time Contractors. His father, John C. Krull, Jr. is a physical science technician at the Federal Bureau of Investigation. His mother, Marie T. Krull, is a Paraeducator with Baltimore City Public Schools.
She was 16 and he was 17, and going to different high schools — she was a junior, he was senior. A mutual friend brought them together by phone. For three months, they talked on the phone almost every day, even though they hadn't met in person.
"He was fun to talk to," says Cortlyn. "He was in living in Federal Hill, so we finally arranged to meet there. I brought a whole bunch of my girlfriends down, and he brought one of his guy friends. We probably hung out for about 5 minutes and then left."
But, soon after, they started to see each other every weekend. That continued after he graduated.
"We started officially dating September, 2007, when he asked me to be his girlfriend," she says. "He went to CCBC in Catonsville, which is right next to Catonsville High. So we would see each other every day after school."
Cortlyn graduated the following spring, and then went to Wesley College in Delaware the following fall.
"That was a pretty rough time," says Josh. "But, we got through that. Almost every weekend, she was coming down or I was going up to visit her."
She transferred to CCBC for the spring 2010 semester, and then transferred to Towson University.
Each of them say they knew almost from the start they had found their soulmates.
"I knew I wanted to be with him before we even met, because we would talk all the time," Cortlyn says. "Probably before I went away to college, I knew I wanted to marry him."
"After the first two dates we went on, I knew she was the one I'd settle down with," says Josh. "She's a lot more mature than other people, and just awesome, amazing."
The proposal, December 23, 2011:
"I was not expecting it at all," says Cortlyn. "We hadn't really talked about marriage."
"I was doing Christmas shopping [a couple of weeks earlier]," says Josh. "I had no idea what to get her. But, I knew [the proposal] was going to happen eventually, so I thought I could do it then." So, he went into Gordon's Jewelers, and found a princess-cut solitaire he thought she'd like. Then, he went to her father to ask permission.
"We made gingerbread houses and then Josh suggested going to Federal Hill to look at the Christmas lights because that's where we'd first met," she says.
"I asked her out to Federal Hill, because I thought it would be cool to do it there," Josh says. "So, I said let's go walking to look at Christmas lights. Except there weren't any, and she was saying, this is stupid. I was joking with her this would be an awesome time to propose, and she got so mad."
"He was joking around, saying 'It's too bad I didn't get you a ring because this would've been the perfect time to give it to you,' " says Cortlyn. "And I said, 'That's a terrible thing to say. But yes, it would be.'"
"We kept walking and we got to the front of Federal Hill Park and he said, 'You know how I'm always fooling around with you, playing practical jokes on you?' Then he got down on one knee and he asked me. I just stared at him. And then I said, 'Of course!'" she says.
"And she went from angry to happy," he says, with a laugh.
"We didn't tell anyone until Christmas," she says. "So, I couldn't wear the ring around anyone. I would wear it to bed, and then have to take it off. Christmas Eve, we went tailgating at Ravens Stadium with my family and everyone. So, I wore gloves all day so I could wear it. [The next morning,] I had Josh come over to the house at 6 a.m. I have young siblings who would want to open presents early. So, we had to get in there to tell my parents before all the present-opening began. After we told them, my mom brought down a few extra presents that she said she had gotten 'just in case.' It was a picture frame with a big ring on it, and a bridal magazine. Then we went and told the rest of my family and Josh's family also."
Planning the big day has definitely been a joint effort.
"We did everything together, and always went with our first choice," says Josh. "We just wanted to have fun and everything to be great,"
That began with the heads-up they gave their invitees.
"We had really fun save-the-dates. They were refrigerator magnets from magnetstreet.com," says Cortlyn.
The couple also ordered their invitations from magnetstreet.com.
"Josh did all of the invitations by himself," says Cortlyn. "He wrote all the addresses and sent them all out when I was at work one day."
On September 4, as some 100 guests arrive at the Gramercy Mansion, they'll be serenaded by singer/pianist Paul Lavin, who will then deejay at the reception. Cortlyn's uncle, James Kaiserski, will officiate at the ceremony, which will take place in the garden.
"He had [performed] a wedding for a friend in Massachusetts," says Cortlyn. "I wanted something personal. He became a minister online so he could do it."
Her maid-of-honor — 12-year-old sister, Gretchen — will wear an iris satin strapless knee length dress from David's Bridal and carry a purple, white and green bouquet.
A 9-year-old cousin, Adelaide Parrott, will be the flower girl, wearing a white floor-length dress with a little beading on it.
Cortlyn isn't revealing much about her gown, except to say it's "white, with a cathedral train."
Both she and Gretchen will wear dark purple pumps. Cortlyn's bouquet will be similar to Gretchen's.
"Mine will have more purple in it and hers will have more white, to balance it out," she says.
Williamson's Nursery is doing all the bouquets and arrangements.
Josh's best man (his 21-year-old brother Sean), head usher (Cortlyn's 10-year-old brother Dexter) and ring bearer (Cortlyn's 8-year-old brother Vincent) - will wear gray tuxedos with iris vests and ties. Josh will wear a gray tux with white vest and tie. All the tuxes are being rented from Cy's Swimwear and Tuxedos.
"I'm wearing dress shoes for the ceremony," says Josh. "But, then I'm switching for the reception to purple Nike shoes because the dress color is purple. They have "I do" on one side and the wedding date on the other." He ordered them from http://www.nike.com.
Cortlyn and Josh said the mansion itself has so much decor, they didn't need to add much for their reception.
"I'm not a really big flower person," says Cortlyn, "So we're doing small square glass vases with a few white hydrangeas in them as the centerpieces."
A cocktail hour featuring lots of seafood hors d'oeuvres will follow the ceremony.
"I'm a pescatarian," says Cortlyn. "So, [caterer] Innovative Gourmet has really been great, working with us. We're going to have grilled shrimp, grilled lobster, crab balls."
That fish-only tenet will also apply to the buffet dinner, where guests will have choices that include tilapia, a pasta dish, a shrimp dish and fresh grilled vegetables and potatoes.
Cortlyn says they specifically wanted a buffet dinner instead of a served seated meal.
"We don't want people to be stuck at their tables," she explains. "We want people dancing, hanging out and having a good time, not to have a stuffy wedding atmosphere. I want it to be a fun, hanging out right after we got married kind of thing."
The Cake — from Bakery Express — will have three tiers in white with the design reflecting that of her dress. The color of her sister's dress will be there as well, in the fondant flower decoration. Each layer will have a different cake and filling: vanilla pound cake with vanilla filling on the bottom, chocolate cake with chocolate mousse filling in the second layer, and vanilla cake with strawberry icing on the top.
Baltimore wedding photographer Tara Hope will be documenting the day.
"Our favors are awesome, but I don't want to say what they are," Cortlyn says with a giggle. "And they're very much us. They're perfect."
The couple will add a little tradition from Josh's side of the family.
"We are doing the Polish Apron dance," says Cortlyn. "That's when the maid of honor wears the apron, and people put cash in it. Then, the couple puts it toward something. We will probably use it on our honeymoon."
"We're going to Punta Cana in Dominican Republic," says Cortlyn. "We've never been out of the country and we wanted to go some place in the Caribbean. We're doing [an Apple Vacations] square deal, where we don't know where we're staying yet. We won't find out until about 24 hours before we go. That's kind of our personalities — it's go with the flow. Josh was really excited about it. We're really excited about it. We know we're going to have fun no matter where we are."