In 'The His'er Problem,' from her 1998 essay collection "Ex Libris," Anne Fadiman talks about using gender-neutral language in writing, and describes reading a sentence "by my beloved role model, E. B. White: 'There is one thing the essayist cannot do—he cannot indulge himself in deceit or concealment, for he will be found out in no time.' I felt the door slamming in my face so fast I could feel the wind against my cheek." Using "he" as the supposedly neutral pronoun is exclusionary, but what do you do about a phrase like "to each his own"? Using "his or her" feels unnecessarily clunky, but in her essay, Fadiman objects to using "their" as a singular neutral pronoun—"The disagreement between pronoun and antecedent is more than I can bear," she writes.