To GOTM: OK, I told the dude to date you. You're welcome. But moving within dating distance solves only one of the three issues he cited when he "dumped" you. The distance problem has been resolved, but the career shit and busy shit endure—if those are the real reasons he dumped you. The courteous dumper often points to career, schooling, distance, etc., to spare a dumpee's feelings. When a blindsided dumpee presses the courteous dumper for the real reason(s)—as you did, GOTM—the dumper almost always doubles down and insists that career, schooling, distance, etc., are the real reason(s). Only in rare cases does the dumper say, "OK, that wasn't the truth. I totally lied. The real reasons I'm dumping you are [something devastating, something you can't unhear, something the dumpee was right to spare you from in the first place]."