Worried Over Repercussions Regarding Incriminating Employment Deal
Webcamming-aka camwhoring-is widely regarded as the safest form of sex work. Webcammers aren't in the same room with their clients (unlike strippers, lap dancers, escorts, foot-fetish-party girls, pro doms, etc.), and cammers have the ability to instantly block creepy, rude, or abusive viewers. But there are risks, WORRIED, chief among them how easily viewers can take screengrabs and record videos of a cammer's sessions. So if your son is planning on a career as a teacher or a cop or a politician, it's possible that pics and videos could come back to haunt him.
But with so many young people out there swapping dirty pics and videos (and so many old people doing it too), and with so many students camming their way through college (getting naked online is arguably less of a risk to someone's future prospects than crushing student-loan debt), a time when everyone will have a few incriminating images circulating online is quickly coming. And at that point-which will likely coincide with your son's entry into the workforce-a few stray dirty pics, videos, or GIFs won't be the career-ending scandal that it is today.
Now here's what Judy Savage, my late mom, would've said if she discovered that one of her four kids was camwhoring to pay college expenses: "You're an adult, and I can't tell you what to do. You are going to make your own choices and you're going to make your own mistakes. But you do have to listen to my concerns. You owe me that." Hesitating to hear mom out would result in a single raised eyebrow-a move that had a paralyzing effect on me and my siblings-and then mom asking if we would rather talk about her four C-section scars instead.
We always chose to hear her out.
So have a conversation with your son, WORRIED, but first familiarize yourself with the technology and the phenomenon that is camming. The New York Times wrote a great story on the risks and rewards of camming ("Intimacy on the Web, With a Crowd," Sept. 21, 2013), and the first episode of HBO's Real Sex reboot, Sex//Now, focuses on camming. Checking out both might help you have a more informed, less freaked conversation with your son about how he's paying for his booze, cigarettes, and pot.
My fiancée and I have a lovely GGG relationship. Recently we discovered a shared fantasy of unconscious sex-basically, one of us would be unconscious while the other would do whatever they like. Both of us are interested in both roles. Our question is how we go about fulfilling this fantasy. Are there safe ways to put each other to sleep?