Mismatched On Sex
The best way to communicate to this boy that you aren't gonna give up masturbation is to break the fuck up with him, MOS. Your boyfriend is essentially forcing you to pick between him or masturbation, and the choice is obvious: Masturbation is a pleasurable friend that doesn't judge you or shame you, and your boyfriend is an unpleasant, sex-negative, controlling, judgmental scold.
Then, after you've enjoyed a few dozen celebratory guilt-free orgasms, MOS, ask yourself why you wasted even two minutes of your precious pansexual time on a guy like him, i.e., someone with whom you're clearly not sexually compatible. You're pansexual! Somewhat sexually experienced! You masturbate! You enjoy porn! I could understand you dating a guy who was a virgin and wanted to remain sexually inactive for now-for religious reasons or otherwise-but dating someone you had to talk out of seeing you as the spawn of Satan? Dating someone you have to lie to about something as common and healthy as masturbation? Not worth it, MOS, not in the short run, not in the long run. You want to be with someone who likes you and wants to be with you, and this boy doesn't like you. Why on earth do you like him?
Finally: I hope that parenthetical in your second paragraph was meant sarcastically. But just in case: Being sexually active does not make you "impure." I think you know that, MOS, but I want you to get out of this relationship while you still believe it.
I'm a 24-year-old straight male and I'm unattractive. Physically I'm not bad (not hot, but not ugly), but sadly, I've suffered from extreme depression all my life. I've gotten help, and it's made me a little better, to the point where I'm functional. Now here's my issue: Low self-esteem and lethargy aren't exactly the best things for attracting the opposite sex. My sex life is poor, and my love life is nonexistent. I've never felt romantic chemistry with a woman ever, and I'm honestly losing any faith that it will ever happen. I've always tried to respect women, but my inability to attract them sometimes leaves me feeling resentful. I don't want to become a bitter men's rights activist, so I'm wondering if you have any advice.