Cautious Homo In Loopy Dilemma
P.S. He is on hormone therapy.
Here's a good rule of thumb for all you sex-havers out there: A new sex friend who'll have unprotected sex with you has probably had unprotected sex with other sex friends. Yes, yes, typically cautious people have been known to "let caution go" on rare occasions. It happens, CHILD. But the odds that two typically cautious people will both simultaneously decide to "let caution go" and have unprotected sex with a brand-new sex friend just this once are pretty slim. "This person who's having unprotected sex with me is having unprotected sex with other people" is a far more reasonable assumption than "This person who's having unprotected sex with me would never have unprotected sex with anyone else."
Which means you should be less concerned with pregnancy-your sparkly new concern-and more concerned with that old concern of yours, sexually transmitted infections. The odds that you got that FTM trans boy pregnant are pretty slim; there's only a 1-in-20 chance that a single act of unprotected penis-in-vagina sex will result in pregnancy. The fact that this guy is on hormone therapy may make him slightly less likely to conceive. But if your cute hookup was having unprotected sex with others-if he wasn't making a very special exception just for you-then you're at greater risk of acquiring an STI than you are of acquiring an heir.
Go and get tested, CHILD, and while you wait for your results, ponder this: Health workers and HIV-prevention educators tell me that the more freaked out someone is by the idea of catching an STI-the more paralyzed by fear someone is-the likelier that person is to have unprotected sex when they do have sex. Your recent experience is common enough to be a depressing cliche. So working to conquer your irrational fear of STIs-and actually having sex once in a while-will leave you less likely to contract one.
Twenty-one-year-old furfag here. I consider myself a bi guy, I check out men and women (femmy guys and cute girls), but I'm a virgin. I have a boyfriend of three years, and we do role play online. He's sweet, nice, and sometimes a stubborn dick but otherwise always there for me. We met online, and I fell in love with his personality two years before we traded pics. He is totally OK-looking, average, and I am fine with this because he's a sweetheart. He's also four years my senior. I'm working on my bachelor's and trying to get into graduate school. He swears that no matter where I go, he'll follow me. Is this a strange relationship? I know it's unorthodox, but is it a bad move? I don't want to ruin his life. What if we meet and try gaying it up and I'm not into it? ("Ha! You ruined your life. I'm not even into men.") It's my senior year, and I think I love him. I'm certainly more fond of him than any other relationship I've been in. Sex doesn't hold a big interest for me, and porn doesn't do ANYTHING for me-gay, straight, it's like watching a sweaty, breathy anatomy class. I've never even masturbated. Am I going about this wrong?