Frustrated Lady Earnestly Enquires Today
"Women need to understand that our sexualities change throughout life," says Dr. Leah Torres, a general obstetrician/gynecologist with a special focus on family planning. "What once was will not always be. That said, menopause can be tricky, but one can adapt to changes that may occur. There are medications and lubricants and all sorts of tricks."
Yeah, yeah-but what about the freakin' enemas, doc?
"The enemas are not harmful as long as they are not painful, though this practice may change the balance of bacteria that normally live in the colon and may make one more susceptible to changes in bowel movements," says Dr. Torres.
As for your fear of being discovered, FLEET, Dr. Torres says you should be able to rely on your doc's professionalism. "I have not seen many colonoscopies, so I would not know a physician's ability to determine a person's level of enema activity," says Dr. Torres. "But as a physician who prides herself in building trust with patients, I would never disclose my knowledge of sexual activities that may make my patient uncomfortable or embarrassed unless there is a concern for her health or it directly affects her care."
If it would really and truly kill you if your doc figured it out, FLEET, how about a face-and-rump-saving white lie? Mention the fact that you're administering enemas to yourself, leaving the masturbate-as-you-expel bit out, and ask your doc if that's a problem. "She can ask her doctor an 'innocent' question such as 'When I feel constipated, I give myself an enema. Is that dangerous?'" says Dr. Torres. "No need to mention masturbation, and the doctor's answer may allay her other concerns."
My mother cannot find her clit. I'm serious. She's 80 years old, quite fit, and otherwise anatomically correct, but she noticed about a week back that she couldn't find her clit. She went to her gyno and told him, and he didn't seem shocked. She isn't sexually active, but she'd like to keep as many of her original parts as she can. I searched online and couldn't find much about missing clits. I've told her that no news is good news, but you try living with a clitless mother!