"This poor woman wants to make sure that when her lover cries out her name, he really means her," said Dossie Easton, coauthor of The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures. "I can understand this, but I'm wondering if there could be a work-around with nicknames—actually, that could get kind of sexy. 'Hey, Bear! Gimme a hug.' 'Ooh, Tiger, you are so fierce tonight!' In all seriousness, many lovers have very personal nicknames for each other, and perhaps that would make the 'Aaron/Erin' problem manageable."