"There's no reason for her to feel like she has to announce, 'I'm an intersex woman.' She could opt to say, at some point, 'I was born with congenital adrenal hyperplasia,' or 'I was born with androgen insensitivity syndrome,' or whatever her specific condition might be, and then answer his questions," said Dreger. "If the label 'intersex' were part of her core identity—a critical part of who she feels she is—then she might want to tell him early on, just as someone might talk about her ethnicity if that's really important to her. But otherwise, she can disclose just like non-intersex people do with regard to fertility, sexual health, sexual sensation, sexual preferences, and sexual function—at a pace and in a way that promotes a good relationship and makes you feel honest and understood. And no one can tell her she has to use term 'intersex.' That's entirely up to her."