She married her first wife and they have two children together. Around the age of 35, when her father died, she got more involved with her true self directly. "When I was younger, it was always a fantasy," she says. "You always think sometime in the future you'll do that, but then as you get closer, or older, you realize there's less time." So she started shopping for a wardrobe, on her lunch breaks at work, and kept it in a secret storage locker. "I was still married," she says, "and my kids were 10 or 11 years old."