People who are poly say they want more love, sex, and joy in their lives—but some poly people seem to want more chaos, drama, and hurt in their lives. Unless you know a couple well, or unless you've noticed the trail of destruction they've left in their wake, there's just no way to tell what they're really after until after you've slept with them. Anyway, how do you move on? You send a note, you apologize for your part in the chaos, drama, and hurt, and you express a desire to mend the friendship. Hopefully you'll hear from them.