Two sobering letters from readers address the challenges that single people face when they retire.
"Publications and websites talk to their readers as if they are always married," writes Vic Linares. "Never do articles address retirees who are single and how they cope." And John Scholtz observes that "you may be taking away a huge part of your social life when you retire. Keeping in touch with former workmates will endure for only one coffee off-campus."
In a study by Age Wave and Bank of America Merrill Lynch, preretirees said that what they expect to miss most when they leave work is a reliable income. But what many retirees actually miss most are their social connections.
That's not surprising, says Ken Dychtwald, CEO of Age Wave. "You're at the peak of your career, answering phone calls and email, going to meetings," he says. "Suddenly, all that stimulation is gone."
Without a spouse or other family members, it can be an even bigger shock.
Being alone also raises financial and legal issues.
"With single folks, the most important thing is to have appropriate powers of attorney in case you become incapacitated," says Ali Hutchinson, senior vice president of private wealth management at Brown Brothers Harriman.
With no spouse or partner as backup, you're more likely to need long-term care from outside sources or to face estate-planning issues, says Hutchinson.
Retiring alone has its pros as well as cons. "You get to do what you want without having to negotiate with anyone," says Dychtwald. "There's an aloneness but also freedom."
Dychtwald predicts that more singles will form "families of friends." In the Age Wave study, single retirees said the leisure experiences they value most are with friends.
"You're going to see women traveling together or men who play golf together," says Dychtwald.
There's no one prescription for coping with being alone. For some people, the answer is to go back to work, at least part-time. The number of older Americans in the workforce has been rising, and respondents in the Age Wave study said social connections are a key reason for working in retirement.
For others, the answer is to try something completely different. "I started taking classes in a new field purely for the pleasure of learning and ended up earning a master's degree in that field," writes reader Julia Brown.
Others wrote to me about being proactive and looking for things to do.
"What I realized is you have to make things happen," says Deb Russell. "They will not come knocking on your door."