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Too old to be pregnant?

The cover of the latest New York magazine shows a naked woman, strategically holding her pregnant belly.

That image has been done before ala Demi Moore's infamous Vanity Fair cover. But what's jarring is that the woman looks like a grandmother. The tagline reads: Is she just too old for this?

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The article is long but I highly recommend it. It touches upon some issues we've discussed here.

When are you too old to have a baby? Why are women delaying parenthood? Is there ageism involved? Does biology determine our maternal fate?

Has reproductive technology helped women or opened a Pandora's box so to speak? Are older pregnancies only available for women with the financial means?

Here are some interesting facts that the author Lisa Miller points out:

Almost all my friends had their first child in their early- to mid-30s. So, I think many women can relate to the rationale offered by the older mothers interviewed in the story: They wanted to get settled in their careers, be financially stable, find the right man first, etc. Even now, at 33, I am still trying to figure things out: career, family, marriage, where to live, whether to buy a house, on and on.

But I have to admit that it was a little off-putting to read about women in their 50s getting pregnant because of reproductive technologies that make that possible.

I think of my parents who are approaching their 70s and wonder how long they'll be able to see Jake grow up. Imagine becoming a parent in your 50s and you'll be nearly 70 by the time your first child is off to college. Older parents in the article acknowledge that they may not be around when their children are adults based on the math.

The author addresses the arguments against old parents:

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Perhaps, at the end of the day, we should accept individual choice. If you have the means and could conceive when you feel you are ready and you happen to be in your 50s, well, then congratulations?

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