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Tori & Dean try to put the spark back in their marriage

During maternity leave, I became hooked on the reality show Tori & Dean: Sweet Home Hollywood. (Instead of sleeping while J. was napping, I turned on the television.)

For those not aware of the show, Tori is actress Tori Spelling of "Beverly Hills 90210" fame, who along with her husband, Dean McDermott, are raising two small children. A big theme of the show is Tori trying to juggle her life as a mom, wife, actress, author and with everything else that's going on in her life.

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I realize that she probably has more help and resources than the average working mom. But like most couples, Tori and Dean have arguments about their roles, similar to the discussion we're having on this blog.

In particular, they are struggling with what it means to be husband and wife when you are so focused on being good parents. You are so busy with work or trying to give your kid a bath or getting an extra few minutes of sleep that you barely have time to acknowledge your significant other except to talk about your kids.

By the end of the show's most recent season, Tori and Dean get their mojo back by reconnecting through dates and getaways without their children, and remembering what brought them together in the first place. They even renew their wedding vows.

Many couples don't have the time or the resources to go to such lengths. So how do you reconnect with your hubby wife or partner? What works for you?

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