We're friends, right? So we can talk about sex and relationships honestly. b readers sound off on this week's Bang Q&A. This week's particpants are Jen Gaffney (Charles Village), Antonieo Barnes (Pigtown), Lindsay Wailes (Westminster) and Sarah Barnes (Pigtown).
After the jump, check out the questions and the readers' answers.
What is an instant turn-on?
Jen:
Big, muscley arms and a great smile
Antonieo:
Confidence not cockiness and being willing to show that confidence
Lindsay:
A good presentation; being well-groomed, confident and polite are the way to get my attention
Sarah:
Being confident without being cocky
What is an instant turn-off?
Jen: An affinity for Nickelback. I do iPod inspections before I get serious with someone
Antonieo: Slutty behavior confused with sexiness
Lindsay: Although self-confidence is a turn-on, coming across as pompous or self-centered is a fantastic turn-off
Sarah: Being too cocky
What's your personal aphrodisiac?
Jen: Clean-scented candles (not the over-the-top fruity or flowery kind)
Antonieo: Female attention that's just given, not asked for
Lindsay: A man who smells of equal parts coffee-and-sharpie-marker has my heart
Sarah: Deep conversation in which the other person shows interest in what you're saying
Which music artist sets the mood best?
Jen: Not one particular artist, but Bollywood-style music is good
Antonieo: Demun Jones. Krizz Kaliko. Beyoncé. Selena
Lindsay: If your lover can't set the mood, they need to step up their game. Also, something with a steady, sexy beat
Sarah: Luther Vandross. Janet Jackson. Pretty much any old-school R&B
How do you keep a relationship's spark?
Jen: Experiencing new things together, even if it's just dinner out at a different restaurant
Antonieo: Never let the person forget you're interested in them at any and all costs
Lindsay: Continuing to do things together. Monotony and never making an evening special is a great way to kill romance
Sarah: Weekend romantic get-aways and late-night talks once the kids have gone to sleep
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