As many of you sit underneath brilliantly lit trees today opening gifts from "Santa," I'd like to add a few gifts for you to unwrap and launch you into 2012 with more peace, power and productivity. As my loyal readers know, I review my best advice over the year and summarize in an end-of-the-year column. From my family to yours, may the new year find all your dreams coming closer!
Life may be what happens to us while we have other plans, but we have complete control over how we react to what happens to us. When adversity lands on you, ask yourself, What do I want, and what can I do to get that? The only way a setback becomes permanent is if you accept it.
We've all heard that God never gives us more than we can handle. Some days you may think God has you confused with someone else. The truth is the best of us are given some huge chunks of coal in our stockings each year. The trick is to use these chunks to fuel your future plans.
No one gets an exceptional, rich career without making big mistakes. The difference between people who succeed and people who fail is people who succeed learn from their mistakes.
Be kind to yourself. If you cannot be your best advocate in and out of the workplace, you will never end up where you want to go. Next time you face a tough challenge, ask yourself what you would say to your best friend. Now give yourself the same pep talk.
The idea of an "inner child" is not just psychobabble. We all carry around a tribe full of ourselves at various ages. When you're having a bad day, ask yourself how old you feel; now imagine a child you love, and talk to yourself in that same manner. You will find it never is too late to have a happy childhood.
Realize that it is not what has been done to you in work and life that has resulted in where you are and will be. It is what we have decided about what was done to us that is decisive. Stop giving bad luck or disappointing events the power to determine your intrinsic value!
Discover that you can learn as much from delightful circumstances as from upsetting challenges. Next time something amazing happens to you, evaluate the history of how you ended up in the right place at the right time. Now repeat that formula to increase your good luck.
Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, no matter how old you are, no matter what race, gender or personality, you have the gift of today and tomorrow to change absolutely anything in your power. Unwrap that gift fully, savor the possibilities inherent in your present, and take today to appreciate all the good you have already created in your work and home life.
(Daneen Skube, Ph.D., executive coach, trainer, therapist and speaker, also appears as the FOX Channel's "Workplace Guru" each Monday morning. She's the author of "Interpersonal Edge: Breakthrough Tools for Talking to Anyone, Anywhere, About Anything" (Hay House, 2006). You can contact Dr. Skube at http://www.interpersonaledge.com or 1420 NW Gilman Blvd., #2845, Issaquah, WA 98027. Sorry, no personal replies.)
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