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Rodricks: Expressing shame in an era of shamelessness

Rodricks: Expressing shame in an era of shamelessness

Years ago, a psychiatrist told me that “should” and “shame” spelled trouble: Too many people were burdened by the feeling that they should live their lives according to external dictates or the expectations of others. And too many people carried shame for the wrong reasons, and long after it served any useful purpose.

The psychiatrist meant what the author Ann Patchett wrote in a memoir — that “shame should be reserved for the things we choose to do, not the circumstances that life puts on us.”

There is no shame in being poor or having had a terrible childhood, no shame in becoming depressed or ill, no shame in finding yourself in a distressing or humiliating predicament...

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