As working mothers, we spend a lot of time balancing meeting the needs of our children while also doing our jobs.
It's not easy, and with school out for summer it can be even more difficult. My son attends camp on weekdays, and so my life is more crazy than usual lately.
I am sure many of you working moms understand. Summer may mean no homework, but in its place are all kinds of other things that must be worked out. Especially if you have a child who needs daycare.
Coordinating early days and work schedules, packing lunches, snacks, and the bathing suit and towel for swim day (now, which one is swim day, again?) can make you crazy. My biggest annoyance during the summer is when camp is held one day a week at a different location not even close to the regular site.
I don't know about you, but especially during the summer I need my 'me time.' That means at least few uninterrupted hours alone to do something for me. I usually use the time to take a hot bath, watch a movie, binge-watch TV, nap (I nap both weekend days, by the way, and encourage this practice), read a book, tend to my garden, get a pedicure or go shopping. Exercising does not fall under 'me time' in my world, but I do try to squeeze it in at least three times a week.
Here are some ways other working moms I know find time for themselves:
Jeannie efforts to get 'me time' in a few times a week. "It may be a night that I don't sit around with the boys watching Nick or playing games. Instead I read or watch a show I want to watch. Occasionally, I go out with a friend for a glass of wine and adult conversation at a time I would typically be with the boys," she said. Her favorite time is afternoon sunbathing with a light novel and a cocktail while the kids are entertained and fed by someone else. "These things are essential for my sanity, and a sane me makes a better mom."
I totally agree.
For a long time, Amy, a co-worker, did not get any 'me time', she said. Once her son hit fifth grade, though, she started getting some. She used the time to get her nails done or walk the mall. Now that her son is almost 14, she has more time for herself. "It is usually spent veggin' on the couch."
Another friend, Linda, said she didn't get a lot of time for herself in the past, but now she finds time to read books. "It felt like I found myself again," she said.
My childhood friend, Julia, said she takes really long showers because it's the only place she can have quiet time. Sometimes she pretends she's asleep on Saturday mornings and just lies in bed. (I hope her kids don't see this and ruin her quiet time. Also, I think this is brilliant, and I am going to try at home. Good thinking, Julia.)
Linda and Julia also count grocery shopping as 'me time', as well as my friend and former co-worker, Katie. Katie and I have something in common. We both put on our iPod while we shop. I, personally, hate grocery shopping and this makes it a bit more tolerable.