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Gift-giving imbalance causes holiday stress

Gift-giving imbalance causes holiday stress

Dear Amy: My husband and I get along very well with his parents, but spending time with them around gift-giving holidays can be extremely stressful. My in-laws give my husband's siblings much more in the way of gifts than they give us, both in monetary value and quantity. This is very hurtful for my husband.

Two of his siblings live with his parents and one lives in an apartment a few hours away. (We're all in our 20s). We open gifts as a family when we are together.

For the past three years, we've tried to keep up with the "everyone opens one at the same time" pattern, but we're often left with 10 or 15 minutes of not opening presents while his...