No feeding tube. No life support. No assisted-living facility or nursing home. The retired furniture designer in Jamestown, N.C., wrote it all down in a living will.
brain-damaged Terri Schiavo grew more heated and Meadoff began worrying that his instructions weren't specific enough. He designated two new proxies to represent him and spelled out that no one - not friends, not doctors, not the government - was to interfere with his wishes.
"I went back through my living will and revised it," says Meadoff, 61, who recently learned that his cancer has spread to his lungs. "God forbid I ever get to the point where Schiavo is, but I don't want to sit, drooling on my leg in a nursing home. God forbid the government intercede in something like that. ... They should make it mandatory around the country that people should have a living will."
Alarmed at the bitter Schiavo battle, which has pitted her husband against her parents, and legislators against judges, over whether the brain-damaged woman should continue to be fed through a tube and kept alive, many people are rushing to make sure that their end-of-life wishes are in writing and known to loved ones. They're contacting lawyers, discussing the matter with relatives and downloading forms from the Internet that can be used to detail what measures should - and should not - be taken in the event that they become incapacitated.
Meadoff, for example, requested 25 copies of a living will from the Tallahassee-based group Aging With Dignity - one for himself and the others to give to patients and friends at the cancer hospice where he volunteers.
But experts say the Schiavo case, in which the Florida woman has remained in a vegetative state for 15 years as her family fights over her life, could jolt more Americans into documenting their final wishes.
"Regardless of what people think is right or wrong in the Schiavo case, they all agree that this is not the way a decision should go," says Paul Malley, president of Aging With Dignity, a nonprofit that offers a living will to callers. "This case is taking an issue that's very abstract, death and dying, and making it more real. That's why people are responding to it."
Aging With Dignity has received thousands of calls and e-mails a day since the Schiavo case went back to court in recent weeks from people requesting copies of its living will, also known as an advance directive. Similarly, the U.S. Living Will Directory in Westfield, N.J., has seen the number of visitors to its Web site rocket from 500 to 600 daily to more than 5,000 per day over the past two weeks.
The Maryland attorney general's office has seen a jump in the number of callers and e-mailers who are requesting copies of living wills, and more people are downloading the document from the state's Web site.
"Anybody, any reasonable person, who looks at what happened to Terri Schiavo's husband, parents and siblings, would want to do everything to prevent that from happening to their own family," says Jack Schwartz, a Maryland assistant attorney general.
Some hospitals and health care providers in Maryland say they, too, have seen an increase in interest: On Monday, six families picked up paperwork to create advance directives at the spiritual care division at St. Joseph Medical Center in Towson, for example, about the same number that typically show up in one week.
"There's a lot of old people here that need it," said Wallace Childs, a 69-year-old former trial lawyer from Towson, who picked up forms at St. Joseph's during a heart checkup yesterday. "A lot of times, if you fill the thing out and you get it all signed, sealed and delivered, that helps them 100 percent."
Childs, who never bothered to create advance directives in 1999 when he underwent multiple coronary bypass surgery, was spurred into action this week after watching the TV coverage of the Schiavo case. He picked up advance directive forms for himself and his 82-year-old wife, who has multiple sclerosis, and planned to photocopy the document to take door-to-door in his apartment building.
Experts say that while a majority of Americans know how they want to be treated in an end-of-life situation, few take the necessary step of putting it into writing. Few want to consider their death or the chance of an unexpected accident taking away their ability to make decisions for themselves. Or they avoid creating a living will because of the mistaken belief that they have to consult with and pay an attorney to draw one up. In reality, it can be as simple as filling out a form and having two witnesses sign off on it.
"There's no doubt that if there were an advance directive in Terri Schiavo's case, none of this would be on television right now. We wouldn't be talking about it," said Joseph Barmakian, president and founder of the U.S. Living Will Registry.
But, for many, it takes a deeply personal experience to spur them into action.