It is a grandparent's prerogative to spoil their grandchildren, right?
Well, not always, experts say.
It's true that grandparents have some leeway when it comes to making the little ones mind, in taking them on special outings and providing them with some of their favorite toys. But when it comes to discipline, grandparents would be remiss to let children have their way all the time.
Letting children stay up a little later than their bedtime and eating a bit of junk food is one thing, but kids are opportunists at heart _ they will push the rules, even when breaking the rules could hurt them.
Some rules should be non-negotiable, such as riding a bicycle only while wearing a helmet or using elbow and knee pads while skate boarding.
And grandparents should never undermine a parent's authority over his or her child.
The adults in every child's life should work together to raise responsible, caring and compassionate individuals who are a credit to their family, their community and their country.
The first Sunday after Labor Day is National Grandparents Day in the United States. President Jimmy Carter declared the day a national holiday in 1978 "to honor grandparents, to give grandparents an opportunity to show love to their children's children and to help become aware of strength, information and guidance older people can offer."
At the time, Carter said the holiday would recognize "the importance and worth of the 17 million grandparents in our nation." A generation later, there are now more than 70 million grandparents in the United States.
Read more about Grandparents Day at http://www.grandparents.com/gp/topics/national-grandparents-day.html.
Parents can help their children show their grandparents how important they are by helping them make a Grandparents Day gift with a mug or teacup purchased from a craft store and some three-dimensional paint. Use these directions I found at the Learning Channel's How Stuff Works Web site at http://tlc.howstuffworks.com/family/grandparents-day-crafts1.htm. I modified them for our use.
Supplies you will need:
- Plain mug or tea cup and saucer.
- 3-D paint in various colors.
- Embellishments such as craft foam hearts, fake jewels, decals and ribbon.
- Glitter glue.
- White glue.
Paint the cup with words and phrases that tell your grandparents how you feel about them such as "#1 Grandma" or "Grandpas are Great." You can write surprise messages of love on the inside of the cup and underneath it.
Paint pretty designs on the cup or glue on foam hearts, jewels, decals, ribbons and glitter.
(If you have a craft idea or question, contact Kathy Antoniotti, Akron Beacon Journal, P.O. Box 640, Akron, OH 44309-0640; 330-996-3565; or via e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org.)
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