A woman once told Harvard psychologist Robert Brooks during a marriage counseling session, "I'd be in a good marriage if I wasn't married to him." "When there are difficult times, resilient people do not blame other people. They don't blame themselves either, but they are always asking what kind of responsibility can I take," he said during a 2010 commencement speech at Nova Southeastern University in Davie, which is available on YouTube. "Never wait for someone else to change. You may be waiting forever."