Yes, we do blame parents and relatives in similar situations. That's understandable. But were I in the place of Darion Aguilar's mother, Jordan Aguilar, I too might find myself "struggling for a reason to live."
Our culture cherishes privacy, and parents are loath to intrude in their children's cloistered solitude. Yet tragically, that could be a horrible mistake. In a society where "minding your own business" is venerated, we have become accustomed to ignoring strange behaviors and consider intervention a form of "snitching."
But how do the friends and acquaintances of Darion Aguilar, Seung-Hui Cho and Adam Lanza feel when they realize "getting involved" might have saved innocent lives?
Frequently I'm accused of being a busybody for questioning untoward behaviors and actions. And too often it's made me feel guilty. However, after reading Ms. Reimer's heartfelt appreciation of a mother's grief I'm not about to change my ways.
Roz Heid, Baltimore-
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