Me and you and you and me
No matter how they tossed the dice, it had to be
The only one for me is you and you for me
So happy together
— The Turtles
Had the engine turned over 50 years ago, the newlyweds might have been another statistic.
After that first serious marital spat, Sharon Berridge bolted from their Indianapolis apartment. Destination: Mother's.
But Randy Berridge was ready. Behind the wheel of their '63 Olds, she saw the distributor cap he had removed from the motor, preventing her getaway.
Their eyes met. And they laughed.
It was the perfect metaphor: His impromptu turn as a mechanic was a reminder that marriage requires maintenance.
And she knew this, too: Randy wasn't going to lose the redheaded University of Evansville sorority girl who had almost gotten away before.
They'd dated five months before calling it quits. Randy got an earful from one of Sharon's girlfriends, who predicted they would reconcile within a week.
She was wrong. "About a week later," Randy clarified, "we were not back together pinned [in a steady relationship]. We were engaged."
Sharon Crawford was pretty, smart. And Randy was a fun guy with a winning smile. The college juniors couldn't wait to tie the knot. When Sharon's parents asked whether they could wait until graduation, they said no.
So Sharon's folks feathered their basement for the lovebirds. Instead of waiting until they graduated the following year, they exchanged vows that Aug. 18, 1963.
Both worked while finishing their degrees.
Still, "we were just happy to be together," he says.
Yet, as they learned to go through life in tandem, they had to learn to ride through the marital bumps.
Money. Learning to budget while living paycheck to paycheck. Early on, they took responsibility for the checkbook. Sharon, who minored in bookkeeping, kept them on track. Control the money, not the other way around.
Children. Mendy, came along four years later; followed by Lynn. Sharon became a homemaker, and Randy, then a rising executive with AT&T, often traveled. They were intentional about carving out couple time.