Q: Can a man and a woman who are attracted to each other be just friends?
A: I have to answer with a question, which is: Why would they want to stay just friends and not become lovers?
Of course, if one or both are married, that's another story. My recommendation in that case would be not to be friends, because the longer a person is subjected to temptation, the more likely he or she — or in this case both — is to give in. But if there's nothing stopping you from being lovers, why torture yourselves by remaining just friends? Many times this happens because only one of the two is sexually attracted to the other, which is called unrequited love.
But if you're both attracted to each other and single, then I say don't stop at being just friends.
Q: I have noticed that whenever my boyfriend and I are done having sex, if I get semen on my skin (it has happened on my arm or leg only a couple of times), the spot that comes into contact with it turns red and blotchy and a little itchy, but it goes away after a few minutes. But in my vagina, I don't notice any pain or anything out of the ordinary.
When I looked this up, I found that this is rare, but my biggest concern is: Can it prevent me from naturally conceiving a child, if it irritates only when I have contact on skin?
A: I'm not a medical doctor, but my best guess is that this allergy shouldn't stop you from conceiving. However, if you are worried about this, ask a gynecologist. Of course, the answer might be "it depends," so that you won't really know until you are trying to conceive.
So maybe it's just something you should try not to worry about until you discover that you actually have a problem.
Q: Is it possible for your G spot to be broken? For whatever reason, it is extremely difficult for me to have an orgasm that is not clitoral.
I would really like to know your opinion on what could be wrong. It doesn't matter how aroused I get — sometimes I just cannot achieve orgasm. Is this normal?
A: There is no scientific proof that there even is a G spot, so don't go around thinking that your G spot is broken.
I get enough reports from women saying that they have G-spot orgasms that obviously some women have the ability to have vaginal orgasms, but the majority of women report not being able to do so, and you shouldn't worry if you're in that majority, as long as you can have orgasms via clitoral stimulation.
Q: I am in my 50s. After my divorce four years ago, I met my current boyfriend, who is 10 years younger than me. I've been enjoying the best sex of my life. He is extremely giving, and we share a level of affection I've never felt before.
Even though I love him, I feel we are incompatible in most other ways. He can be egocentric, and we have different values and ideas about finances, family and some moral/ethical issues. He loves me unconditionally, however, and wants to be with me "all the time." He wants me to sell my house and move in with him and his two teens, whom he has custody of every other week.
He frequently points out the impracticality of each of us maintaining and paying for two large houses. Although I do want a committed relationship with someone someday, I have always needed a certain amount of solitude.
My boyfriend has begun to talk about ultimatums — please help! Is this true love? Should I take a leap of faith and sell my house? I am certain I will never find anyone like him. Sometimes I wish I had never met him!
A: I wish I could wave a magic wand and give you the perfect answer, but I'm afraid I don't have one. I would suggest seeing a therapist to talk this out.
But if I had to give an answer, I'd tell you to move in with him but without selling your house. Spend 24/7 with him for six months, and then decide.
By that time, your attachment to your house would have waned, so it would be easier to sell it. Or else your attraction to him might wane.
It seems there is so much positive about this relationship that you shouldn't give up on it so easily, though again, my judgment is limited by not really knowing all the facts.
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