Wedding trends to avoid

Ratchet wedding trends. (Nathalie Dion Illustration, The Baltimore Sun / August 19, 2014)

Maybe the simulated lap dance by the bridal party at a reception gave you pause. You probably cringed when you saw the bride and groom request money through a Facebook wedding invitation. Or you might have suffered whiplash after seeing the picture of a bride who tanned so much that she appeared to be an Oompa Loompa.

Let's face it. Some current and even a few traditional wedding trends are downright tacky, maybe even borderline offensive.

Confused about proper wedding behavior? We recruited advice from a descendant of the queen of taste — Emily Post.

The famed author, who was born and partly raised in Baltimore before moving to New York City, is responsible for preaching proper etiquette and good manners throughout this country.

Post's great-great-granddaughter, Lizzie Post, is co-author of "Emily Post's Etiquette" (18th edition) and "Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette" (sixth edition), as well as "Emily Post's Great Get-Togethers." She is also the author of "How Do You Work This Life Thing?"

We've come up with a list of the tackiest wedding trends to avoid so that your day of bliss isn't marred by a social faux pas.

Invitations via Facebook

This depends on the type of wedding you're having, according to Post, who is based in Vermont.

"The way in which you chose the invitation says a lot about the formality of the wedding," she said. "If you are asking for people to dress in black tie, I would not send the invitation through Facebook. The method and the style of the invitation should reflect the style of the wedding."

Asking for money

It's perfectly acceptable to ask for cash — but only if someone other than the bride and groom is making the request, according to Post.

"The way you go about it is through word of mouth," she said.

Post says it's best that the topic of money is raised through parents or friends. It should also be accompanied by an explanation of how the money will be used.

"It's a word-of-mouth conversation. And it should never appear on the invitation or in an insert in the invitation either," she said.

Monograms, monograms

People at your wedding presumably already know your name, so there's no need to go crazy with the initials. Still, Post says this too is a matter of personal taste.

"It's your personal style," she said. "If having monograms everywhere is your style, that's your style. There is nothing that says it's inappropriate."

But Post warns that just because there isn't a rule against the practice, that won't prevent some from frowning upon it.

"Certainly people will have opinions about your style," she said. "That will happen no matter who you are."

Lap dances, etc.