He was right.
"I wanted it to feel laid back and for people to feel comfortable in the setting, but still have it feel a little upscale and a little glamorous," she said.
About 200 guests — in semi-dressy attire — will gather at the home of Carly's cousin in Reisterstown. The couple is writing their own ceremony, which will be officiated by Amanda Tate, a non-denominational reverend and take place in a field overlooking the 70-acre property.
The bridesmaids will wear short purple dresses with pockets — which Carly found online at toastbridal.com — and carrying bouquets of purple hydrangeas mixed with other flowers. The groomsmen will don Jos. A. Bank khaki suits, probably with purple ties.
The cocktail hour will be in a tent next to the property's barn. When dinnertime arrives, the barn doors will open to reveal a scene with an "upscale country" theme. The tables will be decorated with lanterns, wine carafes, and purple hydrangeas in Mason jars, with votive candles in smaller Mason jars.
"We're going to put a couple of bales of hay in the corner, because hay absorbs sound, and hang up twinkly lights around poles of the barn and cafe lights above the dance floor," Carly says.
Perkins Productions, a company Carly works with often for events at the stadium, is doing most of the set-up. The DJ comes from Washington Talent Agency. Stacy Bowen will do the flowers, and the photographer is a friend of Greg's from high school, Richard Veytsman.
"Working for a caterer, the details of the menu were important," Carly says. Hunt Valley Caterers will serve passed hors d'oeuvres and seafood, along with an antipasto display. Dinner will be buffet with a London broil carving station, a chicken piccata station and another station serving pasta with fresh mozzarella and basil. The cake — from Yia Yia's Bakery — will have five tiers, with several different flavors including red velvet, chocolate with fudge stripes and raspberries, and vanilla with Bavarian cream.
The dress: Carly and her mother found the dress at a Brides Against Breast Cancer event inWashington, D.C., last summer.
"All dresses there have been worn before and donated," Carly says. "and 100 percent of the proceeds go to breast cancer research."
Why the day will be bittersweet: Carly lost her brother, Zachary Mistovich, 26, January 20, 2012. Greg lost his best friend, Adam Ollinger, 29, Feb. 10, 2011.
"It's tough knowing that people who would've been in your wedding party won't be standing up with you that day," Greg says.
"We've gone through a lot as a couple," he says. "It just reaffirmed that we would be able to get through tough times with each other and be each other's support system. It's given us appreciation for the more important things in life."
""I think for both of us, it makes the day more emotional," says Carly, "But, it will be a positive day. Our family has been through a lot, but it'll be nice to get together for an uplifting day."
"For both of us, this day isn't about the décor or the food," she says. "It's about being with each other and being with the people who you love and support you. And how lucky you are to be in the situation you're in."