Initially, I was adamant about not having a “B” list. If I want you to be there on the big day, you are on the list. Period. There shouldn’t be any hesitation. Now that I actually have a budget to work with, I am singing a different tune.
I found that deleting the names as soon as I’ve made the “no” decision has been very beneficial to my conscience. Andrew, on the other hand, has insisted on moving the names to another tab on his beloved Excel spreadsheet. This tab is labeled “B list.”
No one told me creating a guest list for your wedding is essentially ranking the people closest to you. It is really unfair to all parties involved. I have caught myself lying about the last time I spoke to someone. Our rule was created to simplify things and to have a clear reason as to why someone was invited over another. This rule has also caused me undue stress. Of my eight high school friends, I am inviting six. Tell me this is not going to cause drama. But, how do I ask Andrew to adhere to the rule and not follow it myself?